Resistance to Change

It is interesting how stuck we can get in our lives. Regardless of the signs, we choose to ignore the messages of the soul. We resist change. As humans we naturally want things to be the way we want them be.

I am reminded of a scene from a Steve Martin movie that aptly reflects this human trait of resistance. In “The Man With Two Brains,” Steve Martin’s character is about to marry a woman he just met, but first he seeks permission from his wife in spirit. Her portrait hanging over the fireplace is the focus of his attention as he pleads with her spirit to show him a sign if she disapproves of the match. The painting begins to move, the fireplace below it shakes, and everything in the room vibrates as if an earthquake has just hit. Oblivious to the event he continues, “Just give me a sign, any sign!”

The moral of the story is that despite a multitude of signs we can still resist or miss the message because we want things to be our way. So, what do you gain by resisting your path? This is a question you have to ask yourself, but here are a few suggestions:

• Maybe the resistance has something to do with how successful or unsuccessful you might be if you follow the signs.
• Maybe you do not trust that spirit will look after you once you acknowledge and heed the signs.
• Maybe it’s just that you are not getting what you want and so you don’t want to play any more. You create a drama, throw your toys out of the pram, have a cosmic tantrum, and ultimately get stuck in a pattern of resistance that leads nowhere.

Poet David Whyte said, “Man is the only species that has the privilege of refusing its own blossoming.”

When things are not working for me I know that I am resisting something and endeavor to look for the right path forward. Sometimes that path is scary because it means taking a leap of faith. A greetings card I have says, “If you are not living on the edge, you are taking up too much space.” While it can sometimes take time for the whole story to unravel there is a reason behind everything that happens in our lives. Even our resistance can mask a message and the message is, “LET GO AND LET GOD!”

As healers you are being called to have faith in your soul’s capacity to know the best place for your growth and the right people to work with you. Have faith in yourself and your abilities. Listen to the messages of your soul that come not only through your own inner-tuition but also through that of the people you meet. These messages come in all shapes and sizes through friends, relatives, acquaintances, books, newspapers, movies, television, music, poetry, etc. Remember, you chose your life, you chose the gifts and challenges including the lesson of resistance. The whole point of a lesson is to learn something from it.

This month take notice of what your soul is trying to communicate to you. Are you listening? If something has been repeated three times then you probably need to sit up and listen. Make a journal of the messages you receive personally and the ones you notice from external stimuli. When you are on the right path it is strewn with apparent coincidences. But you and I know that there are no coincidences:) If something is not working in your life look at how you are resisting your path. Maybe you want things to be a certain way and have consequently created resistance to opportunities. It doesn’t have to be the way you think it is going to be.

Lastly, I would like to thank everyone who has been sending me and my family love and light over the past two months. I have felt the energy and the support and am truly grateful to all you angels in human guise. Bless you.