Self-Worth

My husband has been talking to me about self worth. He is a Life Coach, and often works with people whose only obstacle is a self-limiting belief that is connected to self-worth. More often than not, this is related to how you see yourself. If you have this image of yourself as less talented or capable than others then it can block your true potential.

We don’t lose our self worth it is something we are born with, but we can lose sight of it.

The reason my husband spoke to me is because he thinks I tend to sell myself short and settle for less than I am worth. He is right. I do this out of fear of not being good enough. We have to constantly challenge these self-limiting beliefs and reflect on where they originated, what the truth is, and what we have to gain by settling for less than we are capable of.

Limiting ourselves means that we are defining ourselves by other people’s standards, maybe thinking they are better than we are, superior to us in some way. We seek the judgment and approval of others because we want them to love us, accept us for who we are and what we are capable of.

Our environment and culture is linked with our self-worth. Society has led us to believe that some people are better than others.

No one outside of you can define you, only you can do that. Thinking that others are worth more than you can hold you back from fulfilling your potential.

Some people believe that it is not good manners to have self-worth. These people have often been told that they are not good enough, and will never amount to anything.

Self worth is the value we place on ourselves, and if we seek this outside of ourselves through the validation of others then we are doomed to failure. Those with a healthy self-worth tend to be confident, successful, happy, and motivated to achieve their potential. Those with a low self-worth tend to fear not only failure, but success as well.

Accepting yourself, accepting all those parts of you that define you, is the first step toward re-discovering your self-worth. Trying to get others to love you is not the answer. Loving and accepting yourself first is. Self-worth comes from within, so this is where we start the process of healing the image we have of ourselves.

Take a look at this website. It is the University of Singapore’s counseling center for their students. It has valuable information, a self-worth quiz, and strategies for improving your self worth. www.nus.edu.sg/osa/guidance/selfhelp/selfworth.html

On a different note, I have a request. I need some stories to connect to my book Wishing. The book is about making your wishes come true. The Relationship Plan I have offered to some of you who have had consultations with me is part of this book. If I have worked with you and my strategies to help you get what you most desire in life, to make your wishes come true have helped I would be really pleased to hear your story. Even if I haven’t worked with you I would like to hear about what helped make your wishes come true.